How to be confident

How to be confident part 2. In this article, I described some practical steps to take in order to boost your self confidence, and since building confidence is like building a house – it needs not only building but also maintenance lest it fall into ruin. Therefore, this article can be seen as part two where I try to describe ways in which you can maintain your newfound confidence and successfully integrate it into being a core part of your personality.

How to be confident: Stay calm

A confident person is a relaxed and calm person. Being confident in general is mostly about not being nervous and it is obviously very closely related to our self-esteem (how we view ourselves). A confident person is a person who believes they can do just about anything, and the reason for them believing so may be because they have high self-esteem. But it could also be because they have succeeded, after years of failure, in whatever they have attempted. Being calm and relaxed on a daily basis will subconsciously help you stay confident in your abilities.

How to be confident: Challenge your comfort zones

Make it a habit to regularly step out of comfort zone. That way, they expand. If you don’t challenge your comfort zones, they shrink. Your comfort zones will eventually be so wide that you won’t need to challenge them anymore.

Think only about success

Think about what happens when, not if, you succeed, and forget about what happens if you fail. Either think positive or don’t think at all.

Let your successes affect you

By remembering successes and noteworthy achievements, you will build your confidence. Let them impact you and how you see yourself. Remember other people’s praise. Don’t shutter it off by thinking it was so easy and that you don’t deserve their praise. If they praise you, it’s because they think it wouldn’t have been easy for them if they attempted the same. People often praise because they see themselves in that situation and do not think they could have done as well as you did. For example, at a piano concert, would you not clap and praise the pianist when the concert was over?And would you not cheer and praise even more if the pianist was a child of six years old? That’s because the latter is even more impressive than the former.

That being said, it is a bad idea to constantly have your nose in the air, and entertain unrealistic expectations about yourself. Arrogance is not confidence. In fact, arrogance is often uncertainty in disguise.

Pay attention to the little details

If people eat your food without wrinkling their nose, that means they like it. But how often do you actually hear people say that around the dinner table? If your boss reads your reports with half an eye and doesn’t have to read the same line twice, that means it didn’t take so much attention, which in turn means you wrote it in a very user-friendly and professional language. If your husband neither praises you, nor complains, that means he’s most likely satisfied. Silence is often an indication of a job well done.

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